In this digital age it can be very hard to fully accept the way you look/are because of social media and I don’t want other girls to think that it’s not common to feel this way or think that other people don’t feel this way sometimes. I have really had to step back a little and just remind myself that social media is literally a place that people want to share good things and the best bits of themselves so, it’s rare you’ll find people showing negative aspects of their lives. So, don’t get caught up in the idea that most people look that way all the time because is it definitely not true – still beautiful in their own right however, they’re not full glam all the time.
I am definitely still on my journey of self love but, I can not stress how important it is to be comfortable in your own skin – that to me is the base. Everything else is something to help me enhance my beauty and not to make me look beautiful.
So this isn’t a negative post, I will never be someone to put others down but to hopefully encourage those around or watching me. (P.S. To those gals that are confident in their own skin, slay and help those around you to be the same)Here are some steps you can take…
- Begin to love all those things about yourself you would count as a ‘flaw’. These are the things that set you apart and being in a relationship has made me realise that it’s those exact things that make you love a person more – that fact that it isn’t perfect. To me this was the hardest thing to do but once you start to love the things you were either made fun of for or bullied for then no one can tear you down.
- This tip may sound strange but walk tall, with your head up. I found myself walking with my head down hiding my face. Don’t cover the very thing that makes you different. Have a bit of confidence and start to believe that you are absolutely fine the way you are, be carefree and not care what other people think.
- Do something out of your comfort zone. For me as a blogger, I shoot my pictures outside most of the time and believe me being in Birmingham City Centre or in the middle of Kensington in London with a full glam face and a dress is not the norm for 11am but if I want to capture an amazing shot at that perfect time of day I will. Yes people do walk by saying the most random things but about 2 minutes later you’ll never see them again and have a badass picture! Doing something that makes you uncomfortable does more good than bad.
- Finally take control over your own life, if you have people constantly putting you down or feeding you negative things get rid of them. They’re not helping your confidence or self-esteem and most of the time it’s because they’re jealous or not happy within themselves. Don’t have people like that affecting the way you carry yourself because misery loves company – as my mama would always say!